Name The Drift
The first honest thing might be this:
we have drifted.
What drift can look like
A tired house.
A practical marriage.
A week with no blowup, but no real closeness either.
Two people carrying life well and missing each other anyway.
That sentence can be hard to say because drift does not always look dramatic. Sometimes it just looks like a tired house. A practical marriage. A week where nobody fought, but nobody really found each other either.
You do not have to start with a grand fix. You can start by naming the weather honestly. Overcast. Stormy. Clearing. Whatever is true.
Once you can say where you are, you can begin to find your bearings. That is what the Your Bearing is for. One honest question. One supportive line. One thing to keep close.
Start small
Come back to the basics before you ask life to carry more than it can hold.